Do you accept others or try to change them?

You either accept people the way they are or you don’t.  You have that power to make a choice for yourself.  But you don’t have the option to change them because you don’t have control over anyone else but yourself.  

Once you accept this truth, it will change how you approach relationships.  

If you view your partner from this new perspective…the perspective that you have no control to change him but you have the choice of whether to be with him, it can open your eyes to seeing what is, rather than what is not or what could be.  

You can actually be present and open your heart because you are not trying to control him.  You can actually relax and enjoy what is since you are not trying to create an outcome.  

It’s like trying to pick up and move a thousand pound concrete wall…you will be frustrated and you will focus your energy on what is not working and what you can’t do.  Instead of relaxing and being present and enjoying the moment.  

You can’t be in a place to accept someone the way he is or appreciate him if you are not present and you are always focused on trying to change him.  

You don’t have to agree with everything your partner says or does.  You can respect and appreciate your differences.  

But you can’t be in a place to decide if someone is right for you if you are not present and if you are constantly trying to control him. 

The right person for you, you will not try to change him…you will accept him the way he is.  You can appreciate him.  Respect him.  And if you are the right person for him, he will accept you for who you are and not try to change you.