Archive for August 2019

What do you need to feel emotionally safe in a relationship and why is this important? In order to grow closer to another person, you need to be able to open your heart.  And in order to open your heart you need to feel safe.  Different people may need different things to feel safe.  For example, you…

What if the process IS the result?  What do I mean? When you are focused solely on getting to a certain place…such as telling yourself you’ll be happy when you reach it… “I will be happy when I get married or get into a relationship, you attach your happiness to a specific result or outcome. You…

What stories are you telling yourself?  How do you know if you are creating stories? Your emotions can be your clue because you may suddenly feel sad or unhappy or triggered.   Your stories may be caused by events in your past (and your subconscious beliefs that past patterns will repeat themselves), by negative beliefs about yourself…

My relationship with time has been an interesting one.   I used to have a strained relationship with time.  I felt stress related to time…such as feeling there is not enough time to do something or I felt like something needed to happen right away.  I realized that in those moments, time represented a lack, an urgency, a…