Are your feelings your guide?

While letting your feelings be your guide in your relationship is important, if those feelings are based on triggers or fears or being stuck in the past, you may not want to be too quick to take action based on them. 

Why?

Making decisions based on your feelings when it’s actually your own inner thoughts and fears causing them isn’t a good idea.  It’s not the other person’s actions, inaction, words, etc causing your feelings, it’s your own thoughts and beliefs about what is happening.  Thoughts and beliefs shaped by your past experiences and not the present experience or interaction.  

When you allow yourself to sit with and join with your feelings, rather than subconsciously deny them, you gain the awareness and insight to discover what story may be coming up for you.  Is your story based on a prior negative experience?  

For example, anxiety can come from fearing that because your past several relationships didn’t last beyond one year that this means your current one won’t either.  So if you feel some anxiety in your relationship as it gets closer to one year together, if you are not aware of the root cause (allowing your past experience to cloud your future because you assume the past will repeat itself) you may feel that your partner or the relationship is not right for you because you are feeling anxiety.  

Becoming aware of when your emotions are based on your own past experiences and fears is a step towards connecting with yourself on a deeper level.  You have to be honest with yourself in order to fully trust your feelings and connect with your intuition rather than your fear.  

Expand your vision beyond the limits of your beliefs!  

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