What is your emotional state?

Emotions are a part of us, and we have more control over them than we may think.  

Our emotions are a result of our thoughts and beliefs about our experiences and the information we take in.

Living primarily in the emotional state(s) you desire is absolutely attainable.  

This is because you have control over what you do with incoming information.  

Your thoughts about whether something is positive or negative are based on your past and present beliefs about how things should be or happen or look.  These beliefs could be based on your experiences in your life and relationships or someone else’s, your observations of others lives or relationships, media, friends or families comments, etc.  You essentially assign meaning based upon these beliefs whether you are conscious of this or not.  

If you assign a negative meaning to the experience, you may spend some time living in an emotional state of unhappiness, sadness, or despair.  Especially if you perceive the situation as unchangeable.

However even a situation that cannot be changed can become one that still allows you to feel happy in your life or your relationship.  This is because you do have control over examining your beliefs and changing them into something that creates a positive meaning.  Creating a positive meaning for the experience will allow you feel to feel empowered, happy, joyful.  

Next time you feel sad, go deeper into what your beliefs are about your experience.  Are they based on your perceptions or someone else’s?  If yours, are they due to a past experience?  Is the past experience actually happening or is there just a fear that it is or will?  

Challenging yourself when you are not spending time in the emotional states you desire…delving into your thoughts… will open your eyes into the rationale behind your emotional state.