Focus on those happy shared experiences

Do you spend time focusing on what is not going the way you hoped, what you feel your partner is not doing for you, what you wish your partner would do differently?  

Are you spending your time and energy on these thoughts, rather than on thoughts of appreciation for what your partner does, who your partner is as a person, positive things about your relationship, happy shared experiences and memories?

If you answered yes to these questions, consider the impact on your relationship.  

When you are focusing on what is missing rather than what is there to be cherished, you miss out on the positive feelings in your relationship.  You miss savoring the joyful moments, the passionate moments, the loving moments.  

You may even begin to withdraw emotionally and even close part of your heart.  

What if you committed to a deep knowing that your partner has positive intentions rather than judging or blaming?  To appreciating the beautiful shared experiences?  To feeling gratitude for your relationship?

How would this change your daily emotional state and your interactions with your partner?  

Your relationship is something to cherish.  You have a choice as to how much time and energy you want to devote to what is good and happy.  Your emotional connection with your partner and your daily emotional state is directly tied to this energy.