Do you want more joy in your relationship? Where is you focus?

If you want more joy in your relationship, you need to focus on joyful things.  

What you focus on you feel.  So, if you are not feeling the joy in your relationship, take an inventory…

Are you focusing on what your partner is not doing and then getting angry?  Focusing on what he is not doing every day is going to lead to resentment over time, which is toxic for you and the relationship and a block to all your loving feelings. 

Are you focusing on what you fear (for example, if you are afraid of losing the relationship, are you focusing on your fear it will end)?  Focusing on a past hurt and projecting it into your current relationship is going to prevent you from being present in any joyful moments with him and lead to anxiety and insecurity.  

Are you focusing on stories you are creating instead of what is actually happening (for example, taking it personally when your partner wants to do an activity alone)?  Focusing on your stories is going to leave you disconnected from reality and is going to lead to sadness.  

Focusing on things that make you angry, fearful and sad will prevent you from being open to seeing the beautiful things your partner IS doing and the love he IS showing you.  Causing you to feel disconnected from his love for you and your love for him.  

Take back the joy in your relationship and make more room to feel the love…

💫Focus on loving things…notice the sweet words your partner said to you, notice the things he does because he knows they make you happy, notice how he is caring, notice how he wants to make you happy.

💫Focus on what made you fall in love with your partner in the beginning…What are the things you admire about him…What are the quirks you find adorable…What makes him unique?

💫Focus on what you appreciate about him and the relationship……How does he show his love for you?…What things does he do to make you happy?…How is he supportive in your life?

You have a choice on what you focus on, and this will determine whether you feel JOY…or anger, anxiety and sadness.