What happens when you feel your problems with your child are personal or pervasive

As a parent, you may have certain hopes, dreams, and even expectations of how you want your children to grow up.  As they go through their teen years into young adulthood, their roadmap may not be the same as yours.  

A lot of tension can result when what is actually happening isn’t what you hoped for or expected of them.  This tension can turn to anger and eventually resentment.  Poisons that seep into your relationship with them.  

You may start take the problem you are having with your son or daughter personally… feeling “there is something wrong with me.”

You may start to feel the problem is pervasive… that it affects everything else in your life.  

These problems are neither personal nor pervasive.  But when you believe they are, you may feel hopeless.  

You have the ability to shift your beliefs and expectations, as these beliefs and expectations are not part of who you are…they are not part of your identity.  They may have come from other people in your life, the media, social pressure.  

When you stop seeing the problem as personal and pervasive, and you shift your expectations, you are on your way to meeting your teen or young adult where they are in life and creating a close  bond.  

If you need help reconnecting with your teen or young adult and building a beautiful relationship, reach out to me by direct message or through my website.  Our children are precious and they grow up fast.  As a mom, I know and appreciate how much my relationships with my children enrich my life ❤️