You are not an extension of your child, you are a separate being with your own emotions and ability to create your own happiness

Do you determine whether your day is good or bad based on whether your child is having a good or bad day?  

When you have a child who is mentally ill or is using drugs, life can feel unpredictable.  Each day filled with uncertainty. 

Will they lash out at you in anger? Will they come home on drugs? Will they argue with you about their medication?  Will they say something hurtful? 

If you allow your emotional state to go up and down with your child’s, you may never get to a place of happiness or enjoy your life, your time with them, your time with your other children, your time with friends. 

Having the emotional state you want begins with you. 

You are not an extension of your child. You are a separate being with your own emotions and ability to create your own happiness.

Yes, there may be a crisis that needs your attention, but not every moment of your life needs to have your emotions controlled by others. 

Take back control over your emotional state. You don’t have to stay in the pain. Allow yourself to determine whether you have a good day or a bad day. Allow yourself to enjoy precious moments. 

Sending love and light,

Debbie