Peace begins with you

Part of finding peace in your life is accepting your own limitations of not being able to fix your teen or young adult child’s mental illness or addiction.

As a parent, you may think you should be able to fix or control what happens with your son or daughter.

You may see yourself as responsible for their behaviors, their choices, their decisions.

This may lead to becoming frustrated with yourself.

And frustration will not lead to peace for yourself. And it will not lead to peace in your relationship with your child.

Instead, practice self-compassion. Be gentle with yourself. Be kind to yourself. Be patient with yourself.

Realize your limitations – that you have no control over people other than yourself. 

As you are more compassionate with yourself, you can let go of being the “victim”. 

When you do this, you can choose to take responsibility for your own life and realize that having peace is a result of your own decisions about your yourself and how you live your life.

You have a choice of whether to blame yourself for not being able to fix your child’s illness or addiction OR whether to make a decision to have compassion for yourself, practice self-love and self-care, and discover what you can do to bring joy into your life.   

If you have been struggling to find peace, let me know in the comments. 

Sending love and light,

Debbie