Focus your energy on the direction you want to go

When you focus on what you don’t want to happen, you begin living as if that thing you don’t want is already happening.

For example, if you are up all night worrying that your teen or adult child will stop their medication and go into a psychotic state, you are living your life as if they have already stopped. You are spending your time in fear, anxiety, overwhelm. It is in your energy that they are off the medication. You are focusing on how to deal with their psychosis. You are fearing they may need to return to the hospital. You are wondering how you will get them to go there if they need it. You can’t enjoy that they are more clear and functional right now because you are not in the right now, you are completely in the what if’s that you fear for the future.

Focusing on what you fear is not going to help you in any way. There is no benefit. It won’t prepare you but will only cause you to live as if what you are fearing is happening now and it will rob you of enjoyment of them. It will rob you of any peace in your life. You spend more time in the state living with what you don’t want because you are living there even when things are going okay. 

What can you focus on instead? Focus on what you want. The direction you want to go in life. The peace you want to live in.

Focusing on what you want versus on what you fear will bring you more peace. And it allows you to hold that space for something positive for your child.

What are you focusing on?

Sending love and light, 

Debbie