When you hear the word boundaries, do you think of something harsh?
When you hear the word boundaries, do you think of something harsh?
Do you feel if you set boundaries with your teen or adult child that you will have to hold back your loving emotions in order to stick to your boundaries?
If you answered yes to these questions, let’s work on changing your views around boundaries.
Boundaries can be set to protect your well being which will in turn allow you to feel better emotionally thus be able to be in a better position to support your child.
When used properly they can actually allow you to have a loving relationship with your child; because you trust yourself to stick to the boundaries you set, you feel safe spending time with them, you can be more present and open.
They are not set to punish or with any punitive intention.
Rather they are set so you can enjoy your child without getting caught up in becoming a victim of circumstances.
Boundaries really are tools that will help you to experience a loving relationship with your child because they help you feel safe emotionally so allow you to continue to connect with your love for them, and your child to still feel your love.
Walls are energy blocks that prevent your son or daughter from feeling your love. Even though you love them, they don’t feel it. When this happens, the relationship can break down.
When you feel secure with your boundaries, things can begin to feel easier.
My book, Finding Peace and Purpose Amidst the Tears by Debbie Gail Zane, is now available on Amazon and Barnes and Noble online. Through sharing my story of the love and loss of my son through his mental illness and addiction and how I turned my pain into my purpose, I hope to help parents on a similar journey feel they are not alone, give them hope for peace and healing, and provide the inspiration to go on.
Sending love and light,
Debbie