Anger is pain

Anger may be one of those emotions you don’t want to feel.  Maybe you are trying to suppress it because you feel you should not feel angry or that others are judging you for your anger.

If you have a child with mental illness or addiction, you may feel angry at your child for their behavior, for using drugs, for refusing treatment for their illness.  You may be angry at yourself because you can’t fix things for your child or because you feel you should have handled things differently.  You may be angry at their illness – “why does it have to burden your child?”

If you lost a child, you may feel angry at the circumstances surrounding their death or angry at life.

Behind the anger, there is pain.  

Understanding this can help you understand what is happening and have more compassion for yourself and your feelings.  You are in pain.  Pain can come out in anger.  Pain can come out in sadness.  You may recognize it more in sadness and you may feel this is a more acceptable emotion for you to feel.

All your emotions are valid.  All are acceptable.  All are part of the grieving process.

Give yourself compassion and understanding.  

Sending love and light,

Debbie