Grief and the holidays

This time of year is one of the most challenging for me since my oldest son Alex passed away three years ago.  This will be my third Christmas without him here physically.  I know he is always with me, but that doesn’t stop the deep desire to have him back on earth and to be able to hug him.  

I know there are so many others out there grieving the loss of a loved one, and I see you.

It is important to give space to your grief.  Doing what is right for you.  Honor yourself and your emotions and what you need right now.  Sometimes for me that is journaling, sometimes meditation.  And spending time connecting with loved ones.

It also helps me to do something meaningful or that honors Alex. Visiting his grave and bringing flowers, talking out loud to him about memories that come to my mind, writing a letter to him.  This year I started a new tradition where we will all write notes to Alex and put them in his stocking.  I also started getting ornaments for the tree that remind me of him or something he loved.   

Other things you can do are lighting a candle for your loved one as a symbol of your love and remembrance, setting a place at the holiday table, having everyone share about a memory, cooking one of their favorite dishes. 

Remind yourself that your loved one lives within you, they will always live in your heart.  

And it’s okay if you don’t feel up to the traditional festivities, give yourself permission to do what is right for you.

My heart is with every one of you that is grieving.  

Sending love and light,

Debbie