Are your beliefs aligned with your desire for happiness?

In coaching and in my own life, I have realized how powerful our own negative beliefs and “stories” can be in shaping how we feel.  So powerful that they will hijack your joy and happiness in the present and make you feel awful when you believe in them.  

This is why you have to become aware of your underlying beliefs that are not serving you, that do not align with your desires and goals and happiness.  You have to become aware of when you are believing in a “story” based on these beliefs.  These beliefs may even be subconscious and you may at first not even realize they are there.  

How many times have you been feeling good and things seem to be going well for you and all of a sudden you feel sad, anxious, stressed?  For example, if you don’t believe you deserve happiness, you may create a story that supports this belief…maybe you tell yourself that whatever is going well will not last or that those close to you will leave, do not have room for you in their lives, or do not care about you.  Because you believe deep down that you are not worthy or that you don’t deserve happiness, your mind will believe these stories.  

Until you put a stop to them.  Until you recognize your beliefs which are running the show and work on them.  Where did they come from?  Unhealed wounds can resurface when we have not properly dealt with them when they happened.  Maybe the subconscious “decision” that led to your negative beliefs came from a past trauma or hurt and at the time made, this “decision” served to protect you from more trauma and hurt.  

But the thing is, that trauma or hurt is no longer happening now and believing in the stories you are creating based on these wounds are no longer serving you.  

No one is perfect and growth happens when we can recognize how we are sabotaging our own experiences.  A big one for me was, although I believe in my worthiness and that I deserve to be happy, at times deep down I have felt that something I desired was not possible for me.  It was eye opening to become aware of the stories I created based on this…especially when a few hours later these stories were proven to be clearly not true.  

You are intrinsically worthy and you deserve love and happiness.  You do not have to prove to yourself or anyone you are worthy.  You just have to believe in your worthiness and believe that love and happiness is possible for you.