Have you ever asked yourself “How can I make myself happy during this holiday season?”

Have you ever asked yourself “How can I make myself happy during this holiday season?”

Or do you depend on everyone else to make you happy.  To figure out what you would enjoy, to figure out if you have triggers this time of year that make you sad, to figure out how you want to spend your time, etc…

I have news for you.  Your happiness is your job.  Overcoming your triggers is your job.

I understand holidays can be difficult or sad. 

I understand that in your past you may have some unpleasant things that have happened near the holidays. 

I understand that the holidays may make you feel like you should have accomplished more this year.  

But when you can embrace where you are right now.  What you have or have not accomplished.  Where you are in your relationship or in your single life.  

The now. 

Whatever it is.  

Certain or uncertain.  

You take back your power over your happiness.

When you can shift your perspective.  From your fear of the uncertainty in your relationship.  From your fear of the past (unpleasant moments) repeating themselves.  From not knowing what will happen next.  

To embracing the excitement of the uncertainty.  The mystery.  The excitement of knowing deep down that something good is coming your way (even though you don’t know what it is!).  

To believing in the exciting possibilities coming your way.

When you embrace the now and embrace the uncertainty, you are in a position to be open to all the good things coming your way.  Your positive mindset will attract positive experiences for you and you will be open to receiving them.  Your ability to shift your perspective from fear and the negative mindset around the uncertainty in your relationship or your life, to that of seeing the uncertainty as something positive…an exciting surprise that you can open your heart to with wonder.  

Depending on your partner or your best friend to make you happy during the holidays creates the following problems-

🌟pressure on your partner or friend to read your mind, figure out your triggers and fix and heal your past wounds, and perform the impossible task of making you happy when you yourself don’t know how to make yourself happy or believe you are worthy of happiness 

⭐️pressure on your relationship by causing the focus to be on your past…wounds, hurts…and your anxiety over the future…what is going to happen next, what does this mean, where is this going…rather than just allowing things to unfold and being present and appreciating what is happening now

So this holiday season try something different.  Ask yourself “How can I make myself happy during this holiday season?” and let this be your focus, your guiding light.  Return to this question of focus often instead of focusing on what others are doing or not doing.