How your relationship with yourself impacts your relationship with others

How you relate with others has everything to do with how you relate with yourself.  

What do I mean by this?  

Experiencing feelings of not being enough or of unworthiness can result in inadvertently wanting to shut down and withdrawing from others, maybe not physically but energetically.  

Maybe you think this is just something that is only happening within you and that no one else sees it.  

However when you feel you aren’t enough or unworthy of love, you show up for yourself in a way that reflects this.  For example maybe you speak negatively, silently or aloud, about yourself.  Maybe you do things to sabotage your happiness such as not allowing yourself to participate in an activity that could result in your having a nice time.  Maybe you ignore your needs for love and connection by denying yourself the love and caring from others.  Maybe you don’t accept kindness from others because it contradicts the harshness you are giving yourself and feels uncomfortable.  Maybe you allow others to treat you in a negative way because it feels “normal”.

How you handle and show up in your relationship with yourself plays a big role in your relationship with your partner.  The examples above may result in your closing your heart to love, thus inadvertently pushing your partner away. 

In order to commit to your relationship and love, you have to commit to loving yourself.  Awareness is key and an important step.  When you start to feel insecure or unworthy or not enough or not deserving, become aware of this.  Remind yourself of your commitment to yourself and love, and make up your mind to recommit to these.  You may have to do this often and that’s okay.  

I am so excited to begin offering Activation Method Group Coaching!!  Activation Method Coaching is a dynamic type of life coaching which is used to support and empower you to take action daily in your life.  It is through real actions, taught to you as Strategies, that you create the real and lasting change you desire.

Activation Method believes that you have the potential to overcome the negative patterns and beliefs which keep you from thriving and reaching your goals.

These classes will be held weekly, and monthly memberships are available now.  Know a friend who may be interested?  If you and a friend sign up for a month or more, you will both get 50% off the first month.  

The first session is free and requires no commitment!  Reach out to me for details!  

As a certified strategic intervention life and relationship coach, my mission is to help people empower themselves with the skills for experiencing loving relationships.