Create an extraordinary relationship

Have you ever wondered why some people’s relationships seem to be extraordinary and others seem to be strained?  Is there a secret that you are not aware of to creating a high quality relationship?  

Start by asking yourself how much of yourself you are sharing in your relationship.  Sharing yourself can help build an extraordinary relationship. 

Ask yourself where your focus is.  Do you focus on sharing yourself or do you focus on what you are getting?  

When you focus on what you are getting, you tend to “keep score”…I did abc and my partner did xyz.  Keeping score is basically giving to get.  Consciously or subconsciously doing something because you want something in return.  This will feel like manipulation and will not lead to a high quality relationship.  

Instead, view your relationship as a place where you go to give, not get.  We all have six human needs that we are driven to meet.  Focus on helping your partner meet their needs.  

In order to focus on giving your partner what they need, you need to be able to love yourself…you can’t give to others what you haven’t learned to give yourself.  

When you learn to love yourself, you are in a place where you can view your relationship as a place to give, and you are able to give unconditionally rather than always focusing on what you are getting.  

When both partners show up in the relationship in this way, your relationship is on the way to being an extraordinary one!