How your expectations impact your relationship

Whether you are happy or not in your relationship has a lot to do with whether your expectations about how your relationship should be match how you are experiencing it.  

Many times we have an image or picture about how something should look.  It may be based on what we observed of role models as a child, what we observed of friends or family, or even something from a movie.  

Our expectations may be realistic or unrealistic.  

But whether we realize it or not, the expectations are there, consciously or subconsciously.  

And when how we are experiencing our relationship does not match our expectations about how it should be, we may not feel happy, satisfied, or fulfilled in the relationship.

Does this mean it is a bad relationship or our partner is not right for us?

Not necessarily.  We must examine our expectations and the image they are based on.  

We must decide whether we are operating under an outdated or unrealistic image of how a relationship should be.

To create happiness in this area, we have choices…we can change our expectations or we can change our circumstances.