Are you focused more on love or fear?

If you have a child with mental illness or addiction, you may be living in fear. 

Fear of the unknown.

Fear of something negative happening.

Even when things seem to be going better, you may be worrying about when the next thing will happen (fear the next show will drop).

When you are so focused on the fear, it is hard to be present enjoying any aspect of your life, including your moments with your children.

Behind the fear is the need for certainty. 

Certainty of how things will go, certainty your child will be okay, certainty that things will stop being so unpredictable.

However, there isn’t certainty here, and when you focus all your energy on this, you will feel fear.  

What can you do?

• You can meet your need for certainty in other ways such as a daily self care routine for you…meditation, journaling, prayer…anything that you can count on that you will do for yourself regularly will help meet your need for certainty 
• Focusing more on something other than certainty, for example focus on loving your child, building a strong emotional connection with them, contributing to their growth and lives, contributing to your family or others lives, self growth. What you focus on will determine your emotions. 

I would love to know how you are dealing with your fear as a parent.

Sending love and light, 

Debbie