Focusing all your energy on things you can’t control won’t bring about change

Focusing all your energy on things you can’t control won’t bring about change.

I know it can be frustrating when your mentally ill or addicted teen or young adult child refuses treatment. 

For them to truly get better, they have to be invested in getting help, getting better, feeling better. 

I know how much you want it for them, but they need to want it for themselves too in order for it to make a difference in their lives.

While you can’t make them get help, you can decide on what you want for your life and your relationship with them. And you get to set the boundaries to protect your emotional well being. 

Because these are things you can do.

And I’m here to say that if you focus on what you can’t do, you will drive yourself crazy. 

So make a commitment to focus on something you can do, such as…

💫 take care of your physical, emotional, and spiritual well being by giving yourself kindness and love, self care, and setting loving boundaries 

💫 provide support, love, and compassion for your child by seeing them as separate from their illness and remembering and connecting with their true soul underneath 

💫 inspire, guide, teach, advocate for your child by not giving up on them, even when things feel hopeless, holding that space for them to want healing for themselves 

💫 being present by forgiving and not harboring anger and resentment which can carry over into future interactions and communications

And while focusing all your energy on things you can’t control won’t bring about change, focusing your energy on things you can do, will. 

Sending love and light, 

Debbie