It may seem like it’s not right to forgive your teen or young adult child for their unacceptable behavior because that would mean you are condoning it

It may seem like it’s not right to forgive your teen or young adult child for their unacceptable behavior because that would mean you are condoning it.

But that is far from the truth. 

Forgiveness does not mean you agree with or are okay with what they said or did.

Choosing to forgive your child means that you choose to prioritize two things – 

💫 Your own self love and well being – forgiveness is an act of self love. Not forgiving leads to anger and resentment which become poison in your body and mind. You deserve to be free from the suffering related to holding on to anger and resentment. When you choose forgiveness, you choose to be free from the emotional state that this poison has been causing, so you can move past it and no longer have it resurface in your daily life. 

💫 Your loving relationship with your child – the anger and resentment that build up from not forgiving negatively impacts your relationship with your teen or young adult because it permeates every interaction and communication with them. When you forgive and move on, you do wonders for your relationship because this anger and resentment is no longer constantly resurfacing in the relationship and you can be present.  

Whatever your child did had nothing to do with you. It’s their own stuff coming up they are dealing with. It could be their anger at their life, their illness, their situation. 

Regardless of whether they are blaming you for their behavior or not, what they are doing is not because of you. 

So let go of the belief that you need to hang on to your anger at what they did because if you forgive them it would mean you are okay with what they did.  

Then you can choose to prioritize you own self love and your relationship with your child. 

Sending love and light, 

Debbie