Is your mentally ill teen or young adult lashing out in anger and blaming you?

It may feel like your mentally ill teen or young adult child blames you for their illness, their problems, and whatever else is happening in their life.

It may sometimes feel like they are so angry at you and even want to say hurtful things to you.

But here is the thing to remember…this is their illness talking, not who they truly are. 

They are not in their normal state when they say these things.

They may be in a state of psychosis or other altered me mental state or a state induced by medication side affects or even drugs. 

They are angry at their illness, their life, the world.

It is not you.  You are the one who is there.  You are the one who is a safe person for them.

Does this mean you have to stand there and listen to all the hurtful things they are saying?  No.  This is what loving boundaries are for and this is what self love is for.

But understanding what is happening, that they are not in their normal state of mind, that it is their illness talking, is crucial to having that compassion that will allow you to set boundaries with love, not put up walls between you and your child. 

Loving boundaries protects your emotional well-being and also shows your child what you will and will not tolerate.  

And lots of self love allows you to not internalize what they are saying so you don’t blame yourself.

So next time your son or daughter lashes out at you, remind yourself that they are doing the best they can with where they are right now in this moment in their illnesses and set boundaries with love and compassion and give yourself lots of love.  

Let me know if this resonates with you.  

Sending love and light, 

Debbie 

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