Do You Have Strong Boundaries?

Do you have strong boundaries?

Having boundaries does not mean you are being unkind.

It does not mean you are not interested in getting to know a man further.

You see, boundaries are not about the other person, they are about you.

Boundaries are not about pushing another person away. They are about keeping you safe and allowing you to stand in your truth.

When you can trust your boundaries, this will actually allow you to be more open to others.

Questions to ask yourself- is this a boundary that helps me stay true to myself and my desires? Or is this a wall I’m putting up because of a deeper fear?

Because we don’t want to create walls that push others away and cause us to shut down. A boundary is there to do the opposite…it allows you to trust yourself because you have an inner strength and allows you to be open and softer on the outside.

Boundaries are not movable. What does this mean? I notice clients who do a great job speaking up about their boundaries, but then when the man expresses disappointment, anger, pushes back…they immediately back down because they feel they are somehow wrong or that they aren’t doing the right thing.
When you express your boundaries in a loving way and a man doesn’t respect it or blames you or gets angry…he is showing you himself. This is information and you get to decide if this man is the right man for you.

Because in order to create a happy soulmate relationship where you feel loved and adored, you need to be able to honor yourself and speak up and feel heard. You won’t have this if you build a relationship that ignores your boundaries and needs.

So remember, the man who is right for you will not make you feel bad for having boundaries, he will respect you even more.