Why is doing the inner work so important?
Why is doing the inner work so important?
When you can’t tell the difference between your triggered feelings based on your past and your feelings based on the present moment, you may respond or react in an exaggerated way. When your own limiting beliefs and nasty voices cause you to feel negative, you may lash out.
You may blame, get angry and make your man responsible for your feelings rather than own them.
Owning your feelings, taking responsibility for your thoughts and triggers takes inner work.
The first step is becoming aware. Awareness of when you are triggered based on your past. Awareness of when your nasty voices are causing you to feel awful. Awareness of key decisions made long ago that are operating at a subconscious level.
Inner work also involves learning how to meet your own needs and make yourself happy. Discovering what you can do to meet these needs on a daily basis rather than expecting your partner to meet all your needs will free him from having huge expectations placed on him. You will not feel the need to control him and the relationship in order to get your needs met. The relationship energy will feel lighter when you are not in the energy of expectation and control.
When women skip the inner work and just want a quick fix in their relationship, I see one or more of these things happening-
💫 the same problems continue to resurface
💫 when the man gets stressed or focused on something else in his life, she spends all her time and energy chasing after him in order to get all of her needs met because she doesn’t know how to meet her own needs
💫 she has a hard time sharing her feelings without blame, control and expectation
💫 she is spending all of her time focusing on him and the relationship and neglecting her own needs
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