Are you being honest with yourself?

We expect honesty from others, but are we being completely honest with ourselves?

We see the world through our own lens.  And our ability to see the truth can be clouded by how we want something to be.  

What do I mean?  

For example … are you being honest with yourself about your feelings, expectations and desires?  

I have recently observed where a woman began dating a man and after a few dates he told her he doesn’t have romantic feelings for her and sees her as a friend.  Instead of moving on in her dating…she was looking for her forever relationship…she continued to spend more and more time with him.   As she cooked for him and took care of his dog, she told herself the connection was growing.   

Then several months later, when he met someone he wanted to focus on romantically, she was surprised and upset.  

He had been upfront and honest with her all along.  But she wasn’t being honest with herself.  She wasn’t being honest about her feelings for him, about her motivation for cooking for him and caring for his dog, about her expectations of a future together.  

In order to be honest with others we have to be honest with ourselves.  

In order to be truly open to attracting and creating the relationship we desire, we have to be truthful.   We cannot move on from a relationship that isn’t right for us or let go of a past hurt or injustice or forgive ourselves for something we did…unless we are completely honest with ourselves.  

When we can be 💯 honest, we can truly love ourselves because we are not denying a part of us.  We are truly allowing.  Allowing and accepting whatever it is that is happening, has happened…and letting it go in order to allow into our lives and hearts that which we truly desire.  

Until we can be completely honest we cannot be truly happy and truly loving to ourselves.