How do you know if you are in a right relationship that isn’t right for you?

How many times do you stay in a relationship that isn’t right for you?

There are several reasons this can happen-

💫  you are not being honest with yourself…about the situation, your emotions.  You see the world through your own lens so it is important to figure out what is the truth.

💫 facing the truth is too painful…you’ve been denying your real emotions for so long that you are not even sure how to allow yourself to feel all of your emotions.  

💫 a scarcity mindset…not believing that there are other men out there that will be attracted to you and with whom you can create a beautiful relationship.  This is the mindset of there are not enough men and so you need to hold tight to whatever you have even if it’s not right for you because there will never be anyone else.  

💫 low self worth…not believing you are worthy of better treatment, or of having a man who truly respects you and values you.  Maybe your partner is buying nice gifts for you even though he is trying to change you and doesn’t seem to respect you…when you don’t believe you are worthy of better treatment you will feel you need to settle.  

💫 fear keeps you stuck…fear there will not be love out there.  This can happen when you do not have enough self love and you are constantly searching for love outside yourself.  When the love is dependent on others, and not coming from within you, you may constantly live in fear it will be taken away and you will not be able to find more.  The fear keeps you stuck in a relationship based on fear, not love.  

I write this post because this is something I see often as a coach.  And it makes me sad to see people struggling in a relationship that clearly isn’t right for them.  

Now sometimes, of course, you may not feel happy or loved in your relationship because of your own stuff and it’s not because the man isn’t treating you well or respecting you or right for you. 

How can you know?  This is why inner work is so important because you need to be able to be truthful with yourself and others, let go of and forgive past hurts and injustices, and truly love yourself.  

When you are in a relationship with a partner who is right for you, certain things are present-

💫 you both respect each other…each other’s feelings and thoughts…and therefore you don’t try to change or control him and he doesn’t try to change or control you

💫 you are in a relationship based on love, not fear…and therefore you do not do things because you are expected to, you do them out of love…and you don’t have huge expectations and demands of your partner, as you feel love and happiness because of you, not what he needs to do.