Are you committed to you?

I talk a lot about commitment to yourself and how this is an important part of self love.

One example of commitment to yourself is honoring yourself and your values.  

Commitment to one’s self means following through on something…setting an intention for yourself.  

When you set an intention to honor yourself and your values, you need to have alignment with this.  

What do I mean?

If something is important to you, stick to it.  

Don’t just think oh yes this is what I feel or what I believe….this will work for me…this doesn’t work for me.  

Actually take action to bring the life you are living in alignment with your values.  If something doesn’t work for you, it’s not for you and that’s okay.  

For example, if you are with a partner who has a different value than yours…think about how this would fit into your life.  Can you accept and honor your values and his and the differences?  Different beliefs in something may not work for you, and that’s okay.  It doesn’t make either one of you wrong or bad, it just makes you different.  If this is something you can’t accept in a partner and it goes against your values, honor yourself. 

It doesn’t matter what this value is…but it belongs to you and part of loving yourself unconditionally is honoring your values.  

The right partner for you is the one you love and accept just the way they are.  Not the one you hope will change.  

There are many amazing and wonderful people out there and being with someone you can’t accept something about them isn’t honoring you or them.  Trying to change another person doesn’t feel good for you or them.  

Just like you deserve to have your feelings, values, and thoughts honored, they do too.  

On the other hand, you want to be careful you are not rejecting people who you are looking to find something wrong with…this can be a fear of getting close to someone, indicating a deeper fear of rejection or abandonment.  

Be true to yourself.  Be open to the possibilities that are out there for you.  Make space for those possibilities.  Let go, with love, of what doesn’t work for you.  This is the energy of how you can live your life.  Accept others and accept yourself.  Allow others to live their truth, and you live your truth.