Do you need to let go?

You may hear friends or family or others telling you to let go…of the outcome, of control, of a relationship, of a person…whatever it may be.  

When you think about letting go, you want to remember that you don’t have control over anyone or anything but yourself.  You can’t force an outcome.  You don’t own another person.  

If it is control you are holding onto, always let go of trying to control an outcome.  You only have control over yourself and your decisions.  Not anyone else.  Trying to control another person doesn’t work and will just lead to stress and unhappiness.  

If it is a person or relationship, how do you know if there is someone or something in your life you need to let go of?  Let your feelings be your guide.  

If you are holding on to someone or something and you are feeling mostly bad feelings, maybe you need to let go… 

I understand this may feel scary or uncomfortable…and that’s okay.  Allow yourself the space to grieve and give yourself extra love.  

When you let go of what isn’t working for you or feeling good, you create the space in your life for what will make you feel good.  

But you have to honor yourself first.  

If it is a story (maybe one from your past) you are holding on to, ask yourself is this story serving you?  When you believe in this story do you feel good or bad?  If the story isn’t serving you, remind yourself that even if something may have been true in the past, it is probably no longer true right now.  

The story needs your belief in it in order to make you feel bad, so stop believing in it.  Let go of your beliefs that do not align with your desire to feel happy.  And create space for a new belief, one that makes you feel good.