If you are struggling in your relationship with your son or daughter, you may be making what he or she is doing about you.   You can’t both accept them for who they are and take their actions and choices personally.  This doesn’t mean you need to agree with their decisions.   But accepting who…

As a parent, you may have certain hopes, dreams, and even expectations of how you want your children to grow up.  As they go through their teen years into young adulthood, their roadmap may not be the same as yours.   A lot of tension can result when what is actually happening isn’t what you…

What once seemed like important issues, now seem trivial.   Many things I spent time worrying about now don’t even seem to matter.   Things I once thought were important now seem not worth spending time and energy worrying about. Even recent occurrences such as some of our trees falling in a storm, not having power and…

The day before New Years Eve, our 9 month old boxer puppy was hit by a car in front of our country home.  It happened so fast …one minute she was playing in the house, the next she got out front for just a minute and was hit.  She died shortly after we got her to the…

If you are feeling down this holiday season while those around you seem happy and joyful, I completely understand how you feel, and I want to share my story with you. Years ago I spent too long in an unhappy marriage.  It was a toxic relationship.  Holidays were unpredictable and seemed to mostly get ruined by my…

Is this time of year feeling hard for you?  If so, consider this question- What do the holidays mean to you? See, the thing is, the meaning you give something has everything to do with how you feel. If this time of year means pain and past hurt, then you may struggle with feeling down.   If…

Healing hurt, pain, anger, and insecurity from past relationships is important to be able to lovingly communicate with your partner.  If you ever struggle with communication in your relationship, you may be unknowingly making assumptions.   Your assumptions about what you think your partner is saying play a huge role in how you hear and respond,…

Happy Thanksgiving!  🦃🍁🍽  Wherever you are in your life, reflecting on what you can appreciate is your key 🔑 to a happy and fulfilled life.   While we don’t need a day to remind us to be thankful, we can still use this opportunity to reflect on what we are grateful for, in our lives and in our relationships.  …

How much time do you spend focusing on what you want versus what you fear?   For example, do you spend a lot of time worrying about whether the relationship will last, whether he loves you, whether he will continue asking you out?   How would it feel to instead focus on what you want…that extraordinary relationship…

Have you ever made a positive change only to find that later your old way of doing things or your old way of thinking returned?   Maybe after a difficult divorce you work on loving yourself and feeling worthy of a relationship.  You feel ready to date and you get into a relationship and your fears creep…