Whether you are happy or not in your relationship has a lot to do with whether your expectations about how your relationship should be match how you are experiencing it.   Many times we have an image or picture about how something should look.  It may be based on what we observed of role models as a…

Have you ever wondered why some people’s relationships seem to be extraordinary and others seem to be strained?  Is there a secret that you are not aware of to creating a high quality relationship?   Start by asking yourself how much of yourself you are sharing in your relationship.  Sharing yourself can help build an extraordinary relationship.  Ask…

How do you want your life to look next year, 5 years from now, 10 years from now?   Whether your life right now is exactly where you want it to be or not, having a clear picture of where you want to be is important!   When you can spend time imagining and dreaming of what…

Do you spend time focusing on what is not going the way you hoped, what you feel your partner is not doing for you, what you wish your partner would do differently?   Are you spending your time and energy on these thoughts, rather than on thoughts of appreciation for what your partner does, who your…

Emotions are a part of us, and we have more control over them than we may think.   Our emotions are a result of our thoughts and beliefs about our experiences and the information we take in. Living primarily in the emotional state(s) you desire is absolutely attainable.   This is because you have control over what…

What question do you ask yourself, consciously or subconsciously?   What do I mean?  You may not even be aware but at some level there is an underlying question you are continuously asking and searching for answers to.   Whatever it is, you will look for and find answers to it, in everything that happens in your life.  …

Is it possible to inadvertently judge your partner in your relationship, even when you think you are not being judgmental? Maybe sometimes you minimize his feelings and other times you acknowledge them.  For example, he is feeling down because he has work stress because the company is going through some big changes.  He confides in you…

There may be times when things do not happen the way you are wanting and in those times I encourage you to choose hope, appreciation and acceptance.   When you get caught up in something not going your way, you expend lots of extra energy.  Energy fighting it.  Energy trying to change it.  Energy that is not healthy for…

How you relate with others has everything to do with how you relate with yourself.   What do I mean by this?   Experiencing feelings of not being enough or of unworthiness can result in inadvertently wanting to shut down and withdrawing from others, maybe not physically but energetically.   Maybe you think this is just something that…

When you are feeling stressed or triggered, it can bring you down if you allow it to.  You can easily become focused on what isn’t working out for you or isn’t going well in your life.   This is because when you are feeling negative you see the world through those eyes and subconsciously look for what…