What do you need to feel emotionally safe in a relationship and why is this important? In order to grow closer to another person, you need to be able to open your heart.  And in order to open your heart you need to feel safe.  Different people may need different things to feel safe.  For example, you…

What if the process IS the result?  What do I mean? When you are focused solely on getting to a certain place…such as telling yourself you’ll be happy when you reach it… “I will be happy when I get married or get into a relationship, you attach your happiness to a specific result or outcome. You…

What stories are you telling yourself?  How do you know if you are creating stories? Your emotions can be your clue because you may suddenly feel sad or unhappy or triggered.   Your stories may be caused by events in your past (and your subconscious beliefs that past patterns will repeat themselves), by negative beliefs about yourself…

My relationship with time has been an interesting one.   I used to have a strained relationship with time.  I felt stress related to time…such as feeling there is not enough time to do something or I felt like something needed to happen right away.  I realized that in those moments, time represented a lack, an urgency, a…

You may hear friends or family or others telling you to let go…of the outcome, of control, of a relationship, of a person…whatever it may be.   When you think about letting go, you want to remember that you don’t have control over anyone or anything but yourself.  You can’t force an outcome.  You don’t own another person.  …

Do you ever feel the answers you need will come from someone else?  Like you need to find out what others want, think, feel about whatever it is that is happening with you? This comes from being disconnected from yourself, from your emotions, from your truth, from your own intuition.  The truth, your truth, always comes…

You either accept people the way they are or you don’t.  You have that power to make a choice for yourself.  But you don’t have the option to change them because you don’t have control over anyone else but yourself.   Once you accept this truth, it will change how you approach relationships.   If you view your partner…

You interpret everything you see in the world through your own belief system.  Your beliefs even affect the way you view yourself.   Knowing this is a step closer to your happiness.  Why? In order to see and appreciate the good and positive things in life, you have to be able to believe in the good.  And the opposite…

Is your relationship full of expectations?  Is what you or your partner do or say based on obligations? Maybe you are not even aware this is happening. But ask yourself…do you place expectations on yourself for how you need to show up, do you place expectations on him, and do you feel like he has expectations…

Hold close to your heart what is dear to you. This includes your emotions, values and desires.   One way to do this is by honoring yourself in your relationship. It all begins by gaining clarity on how you want a relationship to look and feel for you and then connecting with this vision.   Without clarity…